judys care giver blog

Hey Santa. Remember Me?

 

 

Dear Santa.

You probably don't remember me because I was seven the last time I wrote to you. Lets just say its been a while. Anyway…it’s been kind of a tough year and I was hoping you would take a look at my list and see if you can help me out with Christmas. I would greatly appreciate it.

To start, I would like to make it threw Christmas day without the kids getting into a fight.

I would also like to make sure that we all have a dinner that is not over or under cooked.

I really hope that my father and my mother- in - law are having a good time with us even though my dog ate the pies she spent 2 hours baking. and I really hopes she over looks the time I cussed in front of her. Ok all the times I cussed in front of her.

I would like my mother to sleep threw the night so I can get up early and make the peanut salad and the green bean casserole and still have enough energy to make it threw the rest of the day. even though I shouldn't ask, I would also really like her to remember the gifts she receives this time around.

I want my friends to have a safe and happy holiday season and would like to see them all fulfill their new years resolutions

By the way, while we are on the subject, mine is to loose a few pounds.

Then there is this little thing I was really hoping for. If its not to much to ask… A vacation would be nice. nothing to extravagant. just a weekend retreat or if you could make it happen… a week in the Bahamas. (just saying) Maybe something in between.

Anyway I hope you have a safe trip across the globe and that you get the chance to make everyone's Christmas wishes come true. You know there are always plenty of cookies here for you along with a little drink to keep you warm ( good thing the reindeer do all the driving.)

Of course I don't really need every thing on my list so you can decide what is needed most . thank you for taking time out of your busy season to read my letter. Have a happy and healthy holiday season and then get some well deserved rest.

Sincerely  Judy's care giver

A new year on the way and a new outlook on care giving.

I haven't written in a while. Mainly because I wanted to write something upbeat for my newest post. Well if you read on you will see that that is not the case.

Life has not been upbeat around here. Things have been up and down and down and out and absolutely crazy. Every time I sat down to write I found something “more interesting to do”

The truth is I didn't want to talk about my life outside of the role of a caregiver. All the other parts of my life that I deal with on a day to day basis. Even though I have had some great stories I haven't been able to sit down and share them with you.  As much as I want to talk about care giving, I didn't want to talk about me.

Then I talked to a friend about it and she made a very good point.

“ If your not going to write what you are really feeling then why are you writing at all.” (She was an English major and probably cringes every time she reads this blog.) 

 However she did make since. Lets face it. We are all just trying to get threw the day with everything we have to do and we are lucky if we have a moment to our selves. There are so many things going on in a dementia caregivers life. I take care of my mother  but I also take care of my kids and my husband and my friends. It just can’t be all about Judy.There I said it. And … well.. I feel better.

 So I have decided to change some things around here.

I am not going to wait for something miraculous to happen to my mother before the next post. After all the blog is called Judy's care giver. um hello… that's me.

So from now on I will tell you about how I, as a caregiver, mother, wife, daughter, friend, women and a real live person deals with it all. there are a lot of caregiver blogs out there that can actually give you advice and teach you something. Most of them are very good. I can't and really don't want to compete with that.

What I do want to do is let you know my story and hopefully show you that you are not alone. And maybe even have one or two of you say  "yep, I am totally there. I get it and I am right there with you." Thanks for reading. I hope  you stick around to see the new and the true judyscaregiver.